Welcome to Secure School

Where emotionally intelligent women stop self sabotage and start healing.

Get support. Learn skills. Build secure love.

Without figuring it out alone, overthinking every move, betraying your own needs, or missing the patterns right in front of you.

Apply Now to Join Secure School

The Real Heartbreak

If these patterns don’t change, you could spend years, even decades, stuck in unhealthy romantic relationships that drain you, confuse you, or break your heart.

That’s not “bad luck.” That’s anxious attachment calling the shots, silently shaping who you choose, how much you give, and how little you receive in ret urn.

It’s not just a minor insecurity. It’s the reason love keeps feeling one-sided, unstable, or just out of reach, no matter how smart, successful, or self-aware you are.

Trial and error gives you clues, what hurts, what helps, but it doesn’t reverse the patterns that keep repeating.

See The Breakthrough Model

Hidden influences

It’s Not Fate

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You've tried to heal on your own.

You've read the books. Listened to podcasts. Saved social media posts.
But here's the problem, most self-help paths offer superficial and incomplete
solutions and lead to one of the following traps:

Too simple

“Just stop it” isn’t a solution.

Too clinical

You need tools, not a psychology degree

Too woo-woo

Spiritual can't heal attachment wounds

It's not your fault.
It's that you've been handed incomplete solutions and
often told to figure it out on your own through trial and error.

FEELINGS

If you have ever felt

these kind of feelings, you're in the right place

Like you have to pretend to be more likable to be loved

Like you're "too much" for wanting closeness

Like love means shrinking, self betrayal, compromising yourself

Like the smallest change means they're losing interest

Like you're always being punished for expressing your feelings
Like you're the only one trying to make it work
Like emotional pain is the price of being in a relationship
Like you must earn love through self sacrifice at your expense
Like you are unlovable or unworthy because of their behavior

These aren't flaws. They're wounds.

These core wound are treatable with structure, support, and secure rewiring.

View Secure Love Compass

EXPERIENCES

This is for you if

Reflect on past relationships and see if this lands for you:

You've dated someone who gave mixed signals, offers breadcrumbs, or said "let's just see where things go"

You've been stuck in emotional limbo, FWB, situationship, or almost relationships

You've thought "He's not perfect, but I can make it work"

You're tired of being the one who loves harder, gives more, and hurts more

You want to feel self confident, and you're done with guesswork

The Breakthrough Method

Break the pattern. Rewire the story. Create love that lasts.

Eureka

Insights that light you up from within with new clarity

Engage

Apply the information, fight inner battles, and conquer sabotage.

Empower

Create skills and behaviors that serve your needs, values, goals

Evolve

Live the principles for emotional freedom & attract secure love

Skills are developed: on purpose, with purpose, and in the right order.
The foundation is strengthened month after month to truly become
emotionally intelligent, mature, and healthier.

AT A GLANCE

Weekly Experience Overview

Each week inside Secure School

This is an annual program to shape your core identity from anxious to secure. Each week you'll receive:

20 minute lessons (engaging, digestible, research-backed)
Skill labs (apply, improve, integrate ideas into your life)
Reflections, & Check-ins
Secure Community Discussions
Interactive exercises to see how the information applies to you (and others)
Celebration Weeks (because growth is more fun with confetti)

New habits have time to strengthen with compassion, care, and consistent effort over time. Shift by shift moves to closer to being earning secure attachment style.

Setting you up for success…

Secure School uses

Attachment science

Cognitive reappraisal

Behavioral neuroscience
Emotional regulation techniques

This is a system grounded in brain based healing, emotional clarity, and behavior change.

Before: Anxious

You overthink every message, overanalyze every shift in tone
You fall for potential, not reality
You ignore red flags and then blame yourself when it crashes
You feel stuck in patterns you can’t seem to break
You know what you should do… but can’t seem to do it
You wonder if you’re just “too much” or “not enough”
You’re exhausted, discouraged, and starting to lose hope

After: Secure

You feel calm, clear, and grounded — even in dating uncertainty
You spot red flags early and act on them with confidence
You stop chasing — and start choosing
You know how to shift patterns
You trust yourself, even when emotions run high
You feel worthy of love that feels mutual, steady, and real
You finally feel safe — with others, and with yourself

See what's included

MONTH 1

What you'll learn in the first 30 day

In your first month inside the Secure School you'll:

Calm anxious spirals in 5 minutes or less

Stop overthinking every shift in tone, text, or timing

Build a dating filter that repels emotional unavailability

Identify your insecurities and stop letting them run the show

Feel steady, emotionally stable, and more confident in yourself

Your Secure School includes…

Weekly curriculum grounded in science
Weekly lessons, skill labs, check ins
Private community for support, wins, and real talk
Secure Era Passport to track key points in your healing journey

Secure Love Compass ($150 value)
Mr. Emotionally Unavailable Pack ($97)
Recognitions and milestone badges
Exclusive merch as you grow

Founding members get the Secure Era Starter Kit.

Secure Love Compass

Before you can heal, you have to understand what's driving the pain.
This tool helps you map out:

Patterns

Your emotional habits in love and conflict & attachment style

Pain points

Insecurities that hurt & blindspots keeping you stuck

Pivots

Where you're ready to grow to become secure

Path

A roadmap to secure to guide you on the healing journey.

Included for FREE with enrollment ($150 value)

No more guessing. You'll know exactly where to begin and where you're going.

Join now and receive...

Secure Era Starter Kit

Early access to community & feedback loop

Personalized onboarding

Surprise content drops and first access to future workshops

Bonuses expire June 1st

See bonuses

EASY TO FIT IN

Time Commitment

Fits into the schedule for sustainable change

30-45 minutes per week

Flexible pacing

Integration built in

Designed for real life

As you grow, you'll unlock

Secure Era journals, shirts, and surprise bonuses

Recognition on our milestone wall

Continued access to your personal tools and transformation
And of course delightful surprises

Small celebrations make big healing click and confirm real progress

YES, I WANT IN!

GROUP SUPPORT

Community Culture

Our supportive community leads with:

Kindness

Curiosity

Honesty

Humor

Growth over perfection

MEET THE FOUNDER

I'm Alexandra Velez

I built Secure School because I lived it, the dating scene, the struggle, the heartbreak on the quest to find love.

This program is the opposite of doing it alone. It's structured. It's smart. It's actually fun. It was designed to give you what I wish I had when I need it the most.

12-Month Journey —
Not a Month-to-Month Subscription

Secure School is a one-year commitment — and that’s intentional.

This isn’t a content library or a casual membership.
It’s a structured, psychology-based transformation process that takes time, guidance, and emotional practice.

The healing you’re here for?
It doesn’t happen overnight. And it doesn’t happen in fragments.

That’s why Secure School is designed to support you over 12 months — through emotional rewiring, identity shifts, and real relationship change.

Whether you choose to pay monthly or annually, your enrollment is a commitment to your growth for the full year.
We’re not here to give you more information — we’re here to help you become someone new.

You'll feel much more secure

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Classes begin June 2nd. Secure your spot.

Secure School Enrollment

Secure School is a yearlong experience. It is structured like an emotional graduate program for women who are ready to fully break their anxious patterns and experience the joy of secure love.

Annual Enrollment: $3,564
This is the full program tuition for 12 months of structured support, weekly guidance, and deep transformation.

Flexible installment plans are available through trusted providers like Karma and Afterpay. These plans allow you to pay over time without added interest.

This is a serious commitment.
We do not offer monthly memberships because that mindset does not match the depth of this transformation.

APPLY NOW

14 Day Trial Guarantee

Try Secure School risk-free for 14 days

If it's not the right fit, let us know. We'll refund you.
No pressure, no guilt, no problem.

Join the June Cohort today

Bonuses expire June 1

Class limit is 30 students

Start your Secure Era now